Many times we'll have a great idea and not know exactly what to do. Because things didn't turn out exactly the way we wanted them to, we view the situation and/or ourselves as a failure. I am here to tell you that you didn't fail. You did then what you knew how to do.
When you knew better, you did better. Look at each situation in your life as an experience and an opportunity. If it didn't go exactly the way you wanted it to go, that is not failure. That is an opportunity.
Along with that opportunity, we get feedback. The feedback allows us to take the scenario and improve it. How wonderful!.Life is really about the lesson. It is about individual experiences. Each experience (or test, as I like to call them) gives us information (feedback) for the next test.
Right now, as you're reading this book, you're being prepared for your next test. This morning as you drove to school or work, you were being prepared for your next test. Everything that happens truly happens for a reason. Your goal should be to get the feedback from the situation and incorporate that feedback into your future actions.
Example: Imagine you were in school and you turned in a paper. The paper was returned to you with an "F," and with the "F" you also received constructive feedback. You can more than likely take that feedback and turn that "F" into a "C," a "B," or even an "A" paper. Essentially that's what we do in life. Each obstacle, each challenge we face is like that paper. The responses that we get from the people we come in contact with are the remarks from the paper.
You have the opportunity to take the feedback, incorporate it, and literally change your behavior everyday.The most successful people in the world will tell you that right before their greatest success came their greatest defeat. Just because things are not going your way today doesn't mean you are failing. What it might mean is that you're not listening to the feedback. We get feedback all the time. It is up to us to pay attention and incorporate it, so we can move out of our own way and be even more successful.
Can you imagine how empowering it would be for you, if today, right now, you decided you couldn't fail? One of the questions I ask my coaching clients, and I'm asking you today, what would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Many of us are so afraid of failure that we fail to do anything. We sit back and watch time dwindle while someone else is out there learning lessons and succeeding.There is no failure, only feedback. It is inevitable that we focus on the wholeness that exists within us.
It is imperative that we recognize that just because things don't go exactly as we wanted them to go at that time, doesn't mean that we failed. What it means is that you have (learned) a valuable lesson. Sometimes we are so focused on the fact that we didn't reach our goals, we fail to get the lesson. Get the lesson.
Action -- Think back to a time you thought you failed at something. What were the valuable lessons that you learned? What is it that you know today that you would not have learned had it not been for that experience? Apply this knowledge to a situation today..Dr.
Cherry A. Collier, The Attitude Magician Author, Bestselling Book "Move Out Of Your Own Way" Motivational Speaker and Life Coach, The Fruits of Labor, Inc. http://www.TheFruitsofLabor.com Dr.
Cherry is a Success Coach & an Extreme Productivity Expert that is often seen on tv & heard on radio. She believes that all change starts with choice! Whether it is attitude, prosperity, productivity, self esteem, or confidence ? she has developed a technology called "choice intelligence" to enable you to make your master choice & choose success. Dr. Cherry is the author of Move Out Of Your Own Way and uses her Ph.D.
in Social Psychology to empower numerous fortune 500 individuals and companies including the Coca Cola company, SunTrust, Sharp Electronics and Auburn University to increase their choice IQ leading to success.
By: Dr. Cherry Collier